Tuesday, June 28, 2016

messy bun tutorial

If you follow me on instagram or have read my blog, you'll notice there are a few times that I do not wear my hear in it's traditional braid and in fact wear it in a bun occasionally, usually, on the weekends.  And lately in a bun since I got my tattoo and I can't sleep on my left side just yet.

In fact, I wore it in a bun here and here.  I feel as popular as they are, it's really tough to make it look "naturally messy," like I didn't spend 20 minutes doing this, I just threw it up and viola, messy bun.

This method may not work for everyone, but it's what worked for me.  I actually use a rubber band for two reasons. my hair is incredibly thick, and no other hair thing can handle the thickness.  But I wouldn't recommend using rubber bands if your hair is delicate. This tutorial will actually be probably backwards for most of you, if you're a lefty like me (yay) this will be correct, however if you're a righty...reverse your hands.  I also put my hair up in a bun standing up and upside at first, I can't do it any other way.

A messy bun actually works best with hair that hasn't just been washed.  So if I washed my hair Sunday, and it's Tuesday, that's prime time for a bun.

step 1:
find someone to take pictures for this post :P

step 2:
standing up and bending over, gather all of your hair into one hand and then flip your hair to one side. Depending on what side you want the bun on, put your hair on the opposite side.  I'm telling you no matter how many times I've tried I can never get my bun to be dead center, no matter how many times I try.  So if I want my bun to be on the left side, I have my hair hanging to the right side.

I tried to do this exact same thing with freshly washed hair, no good.  so if you're doing this with freshly washed hair, instead of collecting all your hair upside down, sit and pull your hair up into a "pony tail" so that it's not all smooth and it's kind of raked up to create the illusion that it's messier than it really is.

step 3:
using your left hand to hold the hair, use your right hand to pull about 1/2 of your hair into the pony tail and leaving the rest out.  Depending on how you pulled it in, the hair that's hanging out may be on the left side now.  That's fine.

step 4:
Using the hair that's hanging out, twist or tuck under the elastic.  This gives it the illusion of a messier bun.

step 5:
make your husband take a pic to show off your skills!

also please note, it had been a few days since I had washed my hair so it was a lot easier to do this.

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Sunday, June 26, 2016

tips on getting a tattoo

Just a little bit over a year ago, I made the insane decision to get a tattoo.  While my reasoning behind it still stands, I think I surprised everyone when I got it.  In celebration of one year of having a tattoo, I got another one, but far more detailed and complex than the last.  Here's the version of it right after getting it, still needs to heal so it's not as good as it will look in a month.  And I actually do plan on adding just a few more birds so it looks more like it's flying out over my back.


So what does it mean?  When I accept myself I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.  In life, I've struggled with accepting myself and accepting who I am.  And how others perceive me, it's been on of my greatest struggles, but as I've gotten older, it's gotten easier.  But I know it'll be a struggle for the rest of my life.  The reason it's in color is because with Kyle I can see everything in full color instead of the black and white world I've grown up believing.

Kyle was all for me getting another tattoo, that man does nothing but support all my crazy decisions.

anyway onto tips on getting a tattoo.

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Whether it's your first, or second, or tenth, here are some tips on getting a tattoo and having a great experience!


o-n-e.
the biggest and most important tip is deciding what you want, and where you want it.  Definitely have this decided before you talk to anyone about putting something permanent on your body.  Number one reason?  In a few years, you MIGHT not like it, or regret it, then you have to pay money to cover it up, or have it removed (really expensive).  When you've decided what you want, mull over it for a few weeks or months just in case you decide you don't want it.

t-w-o.
Make sure to choose something you'll know you'll love down the road, or something that has meaning to you.  Mattie got a beautiful anchor tattoo honoring her father.  That's the kind of tattoo she'll love forever because of what it means the post she wrote about it was heartbreaking.  But it's something she's not going to wake up and regret.  So don't be getting those ridiculous tattoos that you'll hate next month.

that doesn't mean if you get a cliche tattoo it's worthless.  I know for a fact that this tattoo is very cliched, in fact my tattoo artist has complained about how cliche it is before, but when I told him what I wanted and how I wanted it, not once did he mention how over used it was or how cliche it was.  In fact he asked me what it meant to me, and when I told him he said that "that's deep."  Or something along those lines.  Because I took a probably overused tattoo and made it mean something to me.

t-h-r-e-e.
be smart about the tattoo and placement. if you work in a job where you can't have tattoos, don't put it on your neck, or lower arms or hands).  I work in a very casual environment, which is why I have no problem having tattoos in visible places, as does Kyle.  HOWEVER, each tattoo can be covered if need be. If you want to look at your tattoo every single day, don't put it on your back.  If you want it only to be seen by you, put it on your back.  I put mine on my back and arm because I could see it in the mirror but also because it could be covered up by most of my clothes.

f-o-u-r.
find the artist.  Start with asking your friends who have tattoos who did theirs?  Did they like their artist, what shop did they go to?  Not all artists stay at the same shop, so it's better to get the artist and their contact information.  If they're well known in your city, you could probably find them online.  Make sure to pick the artist not the shop.  The artist who did my tattoo didn't always tattoo at the shop, in fact he moved to their four years ago.

f-i-v-e.
speaking of shops, check it out the shop before getting the tattoo, this is on your skin forever, if you think they aren't hygienic don't feel obligated  to stay.  Your health is more important than offending someone.  If you think the shop looks shady or dirty, don't go.

s-i-x.
be mindful of the color you pick, black is generally the best because of how long it will last, BUT, those colorful tattoos can last long as well if it's taken care of in the healing process.  The tattoo I got was outlined prior in grey to help with blurring as I age and then the colors were shaded in.

s-e-v-e-n.
want a phrase or word?  go to a tattoo artist who specializes in words.  Not all tattoo artist are good with words, not all tattoo artists are good with watercolor.  You can always see an artist's portfolio before committing to that person.  It's not offensive to ask to see them, and most artists are happy to show you them.  Sometimes it's easy to find it online as well.  Find an artist who is good at what you want to get.

e-i-g-h-t.
no negotiating on price.  Each artist has their own pricing for a reason.  Don't go in and expect them to change their price for you, you don't go into a grocery store and negotiate an item's price do you?  Same reasoning here.  Sometimes artists will do a deal, such as $100 for two tattoos instead the usual $75 for each tattoo.  Some shops also have a set minimum rate as well, or a flat fee.  The shop I went today has a minimum fee of $85.  Another I know has a minimum of $50.

n-i-n-e.
tip the artist.  Whenever you eat out, you tip the waiter who brought you the food right?  Kind of the same concept here, except think of all that work that artist just did for you.  You want to let them know you appreciate it.  Especially if you think you may work with them again.  Usually I tip 20% for waiter service, so I tipped the artist today I think about 15% because he gets to keep more of the money than the waiter.  Kyle thinks you don't have to tip, but I think it's definitely a must.  This person just spent a good portion of their time working on you, especially  if they sketched it out (which mine did) they put a lot of effort in it.

t-e-n.
know your pain tolerance.
  Seriously the first tattoo I got wasn't painful at all, it wasn't even that long!  This one was definitely painful, and it definitely hurt 90% of the time I got the tattoo.  Also another thing to remember, not everyone's pain zones are the same.  A friend of mine got a tattoo where I got mine and didn't hurt her at all.  The last two birds at the top nearly did me in.

e-l-e-v-e-n
choose the season you get your tattoo wisely. For me, getting a tattoo in summer is perfect because of the clothes I wear. However I've read in most sites you should choose for winter and spring.  I couldn't imagine having to be covered up while a tattoo is healing.  In a more temperate moderate climate then I could see that but down here, summer it is.

I hope these tips were helpful for you!  Especially if you plan on getting a tattoo!

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Wednesday, June 22, 2016

the importance of marriage

First off, I want to say thank you for all of you for love you wrote on this post.  It's not often I write my insecurities and then post for the whole wide web to see, but the reactions were very nice.  Second, speaking of insecurities, let's talk about a more personal one today, but one that I think affects all of us, married or not.

I'm going to let you in a secret:  marriage is not easy.  It's incredibly tough, but it's so worth it.  Most people don't understand the true complexity of marriage until they're married.  Marriage is jumps in its level of difficulty after marriage.  Suddenly it's not about your spouse it's about your children.  But a marriage still needs nurturing, focus, and most of all constant attention.  No, I don't mean the attention that translates into constant badgering, not that kind, no the kind that requires both of you, to remember who you are, and why you married.


I don't think marriage is ever meant to be easy, not in the sense one would think either, I believe a good marriage is full of challenges, thoughts, love, laughter, hardship, but most of all time.  There is a time and place for everything and it's difficult to remember that.   I know I've had my fair share of wrong time to say something, but so has Kyle.  Marriage is all about balance.

I think in the two years we've been married, Kyle and I have grown so much from the people we were to the people we are.  But marriage is all about growing, growing into the person we are meant to be, growing old together.

I think the five most important things in marriage are:

Marriage is all about communication it can destroy a marriage or build a marriage.  Remember to communicate.  And really communicate, talk about your feelings, your insecurities, everything.

Trust is the most vital thing in marriage. Remember to trust yourself and trust your spouse. They are your other half.  If that trust is broken, it'll be hard to regain that trust again.

Remember who you are and remember who you married. Put realistic expectations on not only yourself but on who you married. Rome wasn't built in a day.

Love. Don't ever forget to love. Love is one of the most beautiful things you cannot touch but you can feel it, you can see it, but most of all it is the most important thing in a marriage.  A marriage without love is not a marriage

Laughing is good though. I don't think I could be married and not laugh. So make sure to find someone who can make you laugh.  If anything, you'll burn a few calories!



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also, a few of you have commented on how white my teeth are now are or emailed me about it, I wish I could say genetics and good hygiene, but alas, I had some help.  I used these two products: strips and LED light and less coffee!  It actually has really worked.

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welcome home wednesdays #44

Hey y'all
Welcome to Welcome Home Wednesdays number 45!!! Every week I visit parties that are on week 235 or 167 and I imagine the day that our little party will be that old! Crazy huh? I never imagined when we started this little party that we'd be here today... I can't even imagine where we'll be on week 50!! Let's get started! Each week our little party gets even bigger... and we're so glad you're here to party with us! So bring your friends and link up something awesome... we love to see your amazing work around here! Don't forget to leave us a comment to let us know you stopped by and we'll do the same when we visit your link! The party will start each Wednesday at 7am CST... and we'll be here bright eyed, bushy tailed and ready to party! Stop by and share your fabulous posts... we would love to read them and share them with our friends!
   

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

welcome home wednesdays #44

Hey y'all

Welcome to Welcome Home Wednesdays number 44!!! Every week I visit parties that are on week 235 or 167 and I imagine the day that our little party will be that old! Crazy huh? I never imagined when we started this little party that we'd be here today... I can't even imagine where we'll be on week 50!! Let's get started! Each week our little party gets even bigger... and we're so glad you're here to party with us! So bring your friends and link up something awesome... we love to see your amazing work around here! Don't forget to leave us a comment to let us know you stopped by and we'll do the same when we visit your link! The party will start each Wednesday at 7am CST... and we'll be here bright eyed, bushy tailed and ready to party! Stop by and share your fabulous posts... we would love to read them and share them with our friends!

   

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